Couples Therapy in Chilliwack, BC

Couples Counselling

Support for couples & partners.

Most couples don’t reach out because of a single disagreement.
More often, it’s a pattern that slowly builds over time.

Conversations become harder.

Misunderstandings repeat themselves.

Connection feels more distant than it used to.

Sometimes couples still care deeply for each other but feel stuck in the same cycles — unsure how to move forward without repeating the same arguments.

Every relationship goes through difficult seasons.

Counselling can help you find steadiness again.

Support for Relationships

at Every Stage

Couples come to counselling for many different reasons.

Some are navigating early relationship challenges or preparing for marriage. Others are balancing careers, parenting, or life transitions that have placed strain on the relationship.

Some couples arrive after trust has been damaged or communication has broken down. Others simply want to strengthen their connection before problems grow larger.

Whatever the starting point, counselling provides a space where both partners can be heard and understood.

Whatever the starting point, counselling provides a space where both partners can be heard and understood.

Multiple Paths Forward

Emotionally Focused Therapy

EFT focuses on the emotional patterns that shape how partners respond to one another. Many relationship conflicts are not just about the surface issue, but about deeper emotional needs.

Through this process, couples begin to:

• understand the emotional cycles they fall into
• recognize the deeper needs behind conflict
• communicate more openly and safely
• rebuild emotional connection and trust

The goal is not to decide who is right or wrong, but to understand the relationship pattern and create space for new ways of relating.

Multiple Paths Forward

Gottman Method

This approach helps couples develop practical skills that support long-term connection, including:

• improving communication
• navigating ongoing conflict more constructively
• strengthening friendship and emotional connection
• rebuilding trust when it has been damaged
• supporting intimacy and partnership

Rather than avoiding conflict altogether, the Gottman approach helps couples learn how to engage in difficult conversations in ways that are respectful and productive.

Specialized Options

EMDR Therapy

EMDR is an evidence-based therapy designed to help people process distressing memories and critical incidents. It works by supporting the brain’s natural ability to integrate and process difficult experiences.

For first responders, EMDR can help process events such as:

• difficult calls
• traumatic incidents
• cumulative exposure to stress
• memories that continue to surface long after the event

This approach allows individuals to process experiences without needing to repeatedly relive them in detail, helping the nervous system gradually settle and integrate the memory.

What Couples Counselling

Can Look Like.

Couples counselling is not about taking sides.

Instead, the focus is on understanding the relationship dynamic and helping both partners feel heard and respected. Sessions often involve exploring communication patterns, emotional responses, and the ways partners interpret each other’s actions.

 

Over time, couples may develop:

• clearer communication
• stronger emotional understanding
• tools for navigating disagreements
• renewed connection and partnership

Every relationship is different, and counselling is adapted to the needs, goals, and pace of the couple.

If You’re Considering

Couples Counselling

You don’t need to wait until things feel unmanageable to seek support.

Many couples come to counselling simply because they care about their relationship and want to strengthen it before challenges deepen.

If you’re wondering whether couples counselling could help, our team can guide you through the next steps and help match you with a counsellor who feels like a good fit.

Our Couples

Counsellors

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Dean Pilkey (He/Him)

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Tammy Pope

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Jen Dacre

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Deniz Shokati

Portrait of Shirley Thomas, Intern Counsellor

Shirley Thomas

Considering

Couples Counselling?

You don’t need to wait until things feel unmanageable to seek support.
Many couples reach out simply because they want to understand each other better, strengthen their relationship, or find a healthier way through a difficult season.

If you’re wondering whether couples counselling could help, our team can help you explore the next steps and match you with a counsellor who feels like a good fit.

Reach out to learn more or schedule an initial consultation.